Sunday, April 26, 2009

This is strictly personal...

How To Maintain A Friendship

Do you still remember when and how you met your best friend? Did your first encounter with him or her prove to be interesting or extraordinary?

We all need friends; whether they be real-life or virtual, whether they be good-hearted or stuck-up. Aside from family, friends are the next most important thing in social life. Therefore, we need to understand the significance of maintaining and strengthening the bonds that connect us to our friends. Friendship works like the muscles in our body; the more you exercise them, the stronger they grow. On the other hand, if you let your muscles go flabby, they won't be strong anymore.

It takes a lot of time and effort to maintain a good friendship. Friendship is similiar to a relationship in most ways. We need to give and take accordingly so that the other person won't feel begrudged. We should not pour out all our needs and wants to a friend without paying attention to theirs. We must also know when to express our concern in times of need; when a friend has some problems we should try and help, not just carry on grumbling about our own personal minor woes. Friends need to encourage each other and assist one another when the situation arises, not act like a fair-weathered friend who only hangs out with you when you are not in a dilemma.

Most importantly, good friends should know how to respect each other's privacy. When a friend tells us something deemed confidential, it does not mean that we should gossip about it behind people's back also. Use your brain before talking to someone else; the words may just slip out of your mouth before you know it! Similarly, don't tell your friend EVERYTHING and ANYTHING unless you are sure of his or her intellectual personality

. You'll never know how much a close friend may hurt you (emotionally or mentally) by saying or doing things behind your back.

In conclusion, having one good friend is still better than a hundred friends who only care about how you look and how deep your pockets are.


sources : http://www.xomba.com/how_maintain_friendship

p/s : If there's anything dat u're not satisfied with ur friend, tell him or her straight forward, in a nice way. Don't just expect dat they know it themselves coz they also a human being. Remember that human being r not perfect. A good friend is all we need. Lets help each other n love your friend..*i love all my frens..yeah!*




2 comments:

  1. btol2... kalo ade xpuas hati pape ngan aku ckp terus terang.. hahahaha

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  2. biena!!! din know mu blog gak!! waaa rindu2. ;(
    nak add ek!!

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